Hundred Colgate Students on Queer Hookup Culture

[transcribed from an interview with 100 students] 

Interviewer: How would you describe the queer hookup culture at Colgate? 

1: Ohh…. (laughs) it doesn’t exist. 

2: Queer hookup culture? Umm…. 

3: Um… 

4: Eh… 

5: Uh… 

6: I honestly 

7: don't know. 

8: Honestly, 

9: I have 

10: no idea! 

11: I 

12: would not know. 

13: I don't think I 

14: know much about it. 

15: I genuinely 

16: have no experience 

17: with the queer hookup culture at Colgate. 

18: I don't really 

19: have a lot of contact with it. 

20: I don't really 

21: see it a lot. 

22: To be honest, 

23: I haven't really 

24: seen any of it. 

25: It's not something that's really 

26: talked about 

27: by a lot of people here on campus 

28: unless you're, sort of part of it. 

29: I would describe queer hookup culture as... 

30: limited 

31: underrepresented 

32: not very prominent 

33: brushed to the side

34: closeted 

35: under the radar 

36: on the DL 

37: a little bit more sneaky [laughs] 

38: nonexistent 

39: nonexistent 

40: pretty nonexistent probably 

41: fairly prevalent 

42: I'd say it's pretty popular. 

43: I just hear a lot about it. 

44: It obviously 

45: happens. 

46: It's definitely present. 

47: I know it is here. 

48: It definitely exists. 

49: Very small community. 

50: There is, what 

51: twenty queer people. 

52: I literally have one friend who's gay. 

53: Everybody hooks up with everybody. 

54: Friends hooking up with friends. 

55: You run into the same people over and over again. 

56: Everyone knows everyone and then they have sex with everyone. 57: Either nothing's happening or, something's happening but you feel kind of guilty about it because they've probably hooked up with some of your friends. 58: I imagine 

59: slightly more difficult 

60: to find someone. 

70: There are not many outlets at all for people to meet each other. 71: It's really hard to like, meet people at parties. 

72: You don't really see 

73: queer people hooking up at like frats or the 

74: jug or something like that. 

75: Less eager to do so 

76: in public. 

77: Everybody stares at you. 

78: Almost like a "showcase" I would say. 

79: In short, it sucks. 

Interviewer: Do you think queer hookup culture differs from straight hookup culture in regards to gender norms? 

80: Uh yeah, I would say definitely. 

81: Yes one hundred percent. 

82: Probably. 

83: I guess maybe kind of? 

84: I would say yes. 

85: I'm sure that they don't function on the same principles. 

86: I think it does differ 

87: in the standards and the norms that they follow. 

88: On this campus yes. (Interviewer interjects: Why) Because people are shitty. Like, need I explain? 

89: That's a great question, um... 

90: I don't know if gender norms would play as big of a role. 

91: I imagine that it's got to be a lot different. 

92: In like heterosexual hookups 

93: the guy usually makes the first move 

94: the guy definitely gets more pleasure than the girl. 

95: In the queer hookup culture I think it's important for both sides to have been satisfied. 

96: It's more equal. 

97: A little more fluidity. 

98: Probably more balanced. 

99: A lot more open, especially about consent. 

100: I feel like it would be... 

37: similar. 

23: I'd say it's probably a lot more similar than people would think it is. 43: Gender and sexual orientation are so much more complicated. 68: You still see some form of gender holding a role. 

17: Definitely gender norms are at play 

96: In kind of like, all hookup cultures. 

53: The way that the patriarchy cultivates the situation 

64: Even like with queer people, it can get really heteronormative. 27: Whether someone is more like masculine or feminine presenting. 73: People try to fit like relationships into a box. 

12: Like who wears the pants and stuff like that. 

7: I feel like it's just up to the individuals you know? It's just always about the person, whatever the moment. 

89: There's like a specific person who chooses to define themself as having a specific role but. 

Interviewer: Cool, thank you! 

45: It seems like there are about two or three queer students [laughs] that know everything [laughs] and know who is queer and who is hooking up with who. And if you are not one of them, then you're just in the abyss [laughs]. 

Interviewer: What would you say to straight people who say that all queer people on this campus hook up with their friends? 

100: I mean, you're not wrong, but it shouldn't be that way. 

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Written by unknown, found in the 2020 script